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So. It happened. The Sex Talk with Child. fox1013 is easing me through the post-Talk trauma.

Yeah. It didn't go how I imagined it would.



One of my first promises to myself was that I'd be brutaly honest about sex. That means, no matter how much more comfortable I'd be with euphemisms and--you know, moral admonishments--I was going ot be honest. Like, if he asked, when can i have sex, I'd say, well--okay, no fucking *clue* what I'd say, that question didn't come up, thank you God. We'll leave that one. But post-puberty would be part of it.

Forutnately, due to the fact that I immediately block all traumtizing memories, I don't remmbeer all of it, but there were some key points that I think should be remembered, burned into my mind as they are now. This is the short version, because--you know. I was ready. Except not at all.

Me: So, what do you think sex is?
Child: When you put your boyparts *eloquent gesture down* in a girl's parts. *eloquent gesture*
Me: Yeah. Penis. *Child looks at me with pity* Boyparts. Yeah. You got the gist.
Child: But how do you get pregnant?
Me: *blank*

This is where things go fuzzy.

Explaining semen and eggs is easy--in theory. Except I needed context, and you'd think, being pretty much a pornographer, this would not be a problem. I thought about it.

Me: You know those eggs we get at the market?
Child: Yeah.
Me: And that time of the month i get all grumpy and lay down a lot?
Child: Oh yeah.
Me: I have eggs like that. except they are invisible. I mean, you can't see them because they are so small. Women have those. and when they are fertilized, they become babies.
Child: *blank* Eggs are babies?

Oh God.

There was some backtracking, some re-explanation, and some clarification, but luckily, we didn't hit any major moral arenas except my explanation that, as Christians, God kind of encourages us to avoid premarital sex. Most of his interest was in the baby portions of the thing, not the actual sex, so. I'll have a better speech ready so I can completely forget that, too, when the time comes.

However, if Child comes out of this convinced that roosters are somehow involved in the miracle of conception....

Well.

Yeah, I'm not going to think about this for a while. I'm giving myself cookies. I have no doubt this discussion will be revisited very soon, and hopefully, I'll be drinking during that one.

Comments

Re: Trienne Explained Sex at Age 10

[seperis.livejournal.com]

Wow. Okay, that would hve been useful.

I was *so* enthralled with the mechanics that, on a drive to somewhere with a friend of mine, in her parents' car, with both her parents in the front seats, I told her all about it. Even used, IIRC, the correct words (vas deferens, ejaculation, vagina, cervix, etc.) Her parents were... well, 'floored' is a polite way to put it :)

You might try something like that. Little boys, esp., like mechanical stuff. (I'm a girl, but I've always been a little wierd.)

You have a good point. He would probably really *get* it from a mechanical perspective, now that Ithink about it. thank you! now I jsut need to find teh right book. Or that article.

Re: Trienne Explained Sex at Age 10

[trienne-hovus.livejournal.com]

"now I jsut need to find teh right book. Or that article."

Oh, honey, when I say it was a long time ago....try, almost 40 years? (Yes, I'm staring 50 in the face. It sucks.) But there's got to be something similar available now. The illos were, BTW, the standard cross-section line drawings of male and female parts - nothing remotely titillating.

You might also look up the Power Point presentation Pru did, for Lex's Sex Talk to Connor :D