so it was that kind of a night

I hurt everywhere, even in muscles that didn't exist before yesterday. I'd like to thank the inventor of the jet ski for the fact I am in the kinds of pain usually associated with major surgery. Also, I had a shitty night.

This is what I get for going out for one of those "normal life" things that everyone's always making noise about. Screw that. Me and laptop are OTP.

Right. A long, sordid tale of jetski crashing, bad porn, and how it turns out that I can multitask like no one's business.



I did two things when I got home last night. I called my friend Vannezsa and made her come over to comfort me, then I got on AIM, talked to svmadelyn to get fangirl indulgence, because I seriously needed both.

It starts, as so many things are wont to do, with my sister saying, hey, there's this guy....which led to me, for reasons that at this point seem insane, to going with her, the new guy, and his friend to Lake Travis for jetsking.

The thing is, I was nineteen the last time I got on one of those, and the nice boy who taught me was not Mr. Risktaker, so I thought it would be an enjoyable few hours of fun speed on water. I was so wrong. I have never hurt like this before, I am chafed in places that should not be chafed, and then I tried to drive the fucker and--there was this thing? Where it pulled me back so I couldn't loosen the throttle? The wipe-out was epic, and led to

a.) shoulder pain, current, wishing for death
b.) elbow pain, current, wishing for death
c.) chafing in Places We Will Not Discuss, wishing for death
d.) back pain, see above.
e.) calf pain, see above
f.) why am I annotating a list? The only thing that doesn't hurt is my hair.

Oh my GOD we were going like, the freaking fastest when I did my impression of Lex going off a bridge and I think I'm just lucky I didn't get knocked out, becuase I hit the water very, very hard with inertia still putting me at the speed of the jetski in question before water like concrete slowed me down. IT also scared me--I never realized that a lifejacket still keeps your head close to the surface but with the water so choppy, it was *too close* and I ended up fending off a panic attack becuase my elbow kept not working properly and my shoulder didn't want to move. Opposite sides fo teh body, btw.

Up until then, I'd been okay, but--it was a very disconnected okay. I was vaguely aware this is what other people did for fun. To wit--they went out onto large bodies of water for socializing. I am not one of these other people, apparently.

It turns out that my sister's latest is not a subtle guy, and so we ended up at his apartment with his and my sister's new porn movie. Also, my sister told them "She writes porn!" and I never really wanted to strangle her as much as I did right that second.

It's--the thing is, if you've been reading here long enough, you are already aware my sister and I have totally different points of comfort. And by totally, apparently, it's fine to watch porn with two guys you barely know. Two that I didn't know at all. Part of it is my general feeling that I should never have to be in the same room as my sister during anything even resembling sexual activity, and a lot of it was plain discomfort being there with a male I did not know watching something I wasn't comfortable with, in an apartmetn I'd never been to, that I couldn't easily get away from. And I hurt. I hurt enough that I was using rum and coke as a painkiller, and kept having to stop myself from drinking too much--I mean, I made sister's person make me coffee when I realized I was dangerously relaxed, and this really uncomfortable thought occurred halfway in. I'm five ten. I weigh around one-sixty. I'm fairly strong and under normal circumstance, I could fight someone off if I needed to, or try to get away. I've never, since I started college, ever been in a situation where I was alone and basically kind of helpless. And to get away, I'd have to get down so many stairs and in an apartment complex I'd never been to and wasn't even sure where it was, and I was basically almost limping along at that point, my legs hurt so much. I had called vannezsa earlier to ask her a question, and she called back and my first instinct was to get her to come pick me up. But dammit, my sister was there, she could damn well drive me home.

And that's where thing two of maximum anger hit--she asked the nice guy to drive me home.

Okay, maybe it's just me in this, because I sat through too many date rape etc lectures, but. She didn't know this guy. I didn't know this guy. But I'm supposed to get in a car alone with him, let him drive me to my house, and hope he was as nice as he seemed?

Urgh. Anyway. Rewinding.

So here is me, blinking at rum and coke and subtly trying to figure out if it's drugged and that maybe that's bad except hey, if someone drugged me, I'd forget how much I hurt all over. The other guy was very nice and okay, so I didn't know he was interested until the entire hair thing adn the moving too close thing and the *touching thing*, and finally I asked him, are you hitting on me? He had a three second look of utter amazement, but you know, I'd had a bad day. He said yes, he was trying very hard. In my defense, I was kind of focused on the fact that I couldn't move freely. During a strange, strange period of making out, I thought about my webpage, my son, how on earth I was going to sleep with my arm feeling this bad, wondered if he always liked women that almost killed him, how much my back hurt, how long I should do this to be polite, considered the fact that I hadn't made out on a floor in years and was I doing this right, maneuvered a knee into free kicking position should any stray hands go anywhere near anyplace they shouldn't, wondered if this was all the result of terrible, terrible porn (it was a four hour dvd that--really, people like this stuff? The TV screen was huge and it was--no. I mean, memory-block forever type of no), and verbally reminded him that there was no way sex was going to ever happen, then considered how my life had ended up in this place. This place is, cute engineer on a carpeted floor while I just wanted painkillers and my laptop and some coffee.

And through most of it, this really uncomfortable knowledge that my sister was in the other room, with another guy I didn't know, and that if anything went wrong, we were both so fucked.

It's--outside my immediate family and very, very close friends, (and apparently other fangirls, because I can fall asleep on top of them and be perfectly comfortable) touch always feels fairly invasive. I am a fan of personal space, and even the jetski thing I had to keep overcoming my instinct to get space between us. Which you know, if you've been on a jetski thing, is like a quick way to fall off a lot and get yourself hurt. I think--well, I know--that there's something in that either I'm just not willing to think about too hard or that something went wrong in my twenties that I don't remember. And a lot of it comes from teh fact at no time yesterday did I feel in control of the situation, that no one I trusted was in control, and that's a big problem of mine.

Moving on, got him to drive me home, he made vague noises about maybe wanting to see me again, I limped inside, made coffee, called Vannezsa, got her to come over for a lecture on all the reasons why I never go anywhere with my sister and how she has a cell phone for a reason, and next time MAKE UP A BREAKUP AND CALL ME DAMMIT. (She also brought me a cookie. I love her so much. It was an excellent cookie.) Later, svmadelyn set up some automatic strategies for me to use, up to and including asthma attacks and so the evening was not wasted.

I think the other thing that should have been put out there for me was that I was there not just in the hanging out sense, but in the hook-up sense and I don't do that. Plus, there was this thing where my sister and her person were trying to get some other girl from work to come down so they could have a threesome, and okay, what. The. Fuck. I am right there and getting more freaked out by the second. I am there for jetskis and later, Mexican food. I am not there to enable anyone's porn, and there was a bad, bad moment with Sister's Guy making appalling sounds about wanting to make his own porn and staring across the coffee table at me and wow, a whole world of no no no.

Okay, so. I have burned out every bit of social interest I have at this point. Me, coffee, and the heating pad right now are OT3. Feel free to share your worst night if you like. Honestly, I will take scheudenfreud to calm the way I want to call my sister and explain in single syllable words how she is never getting me to go anywhere with her again.

Comments

[cpt-untouchable.livejournal.com]

*blinks*

Wow. WOW. That's ... some bad night, ya had there.

[seperis.livejournal.com]

My comfort is that at least it's entertaining and didn't end with svmadelyn getting a call and writing that I won't be online for a few weeks while I recover in the hospital or something. Right there is my silver lining.

[thecaelum.livejournal.com]

*stares in unmasked horror*


*silently offers BASKETS of chocolate*

[seperis.livejournal.com]

*curls up with you* God, people--do this? Normally? WHY?

[dragontatt.livejournal.com]

Wow...how old is your sister, cause quite frankly she sounds like a moron. (Sorry)

I believe I'd stay away from her and her crazy friends if I were you.

Sorry you're in pain.

[seperis.livejournal.com]

Twenty-six. ANd that's a hell yes unless someone I know and trust comes along, because dear God.

[xoverau.livejournal.com]

That sounds like the nights out that drove me to the hermitage so long ago.

[seperis.livejournal.com]

I am with you. I seriously do not need another night like that ever again.

[wickedwords.livejournal.com]

Wow. Just reading about it sort-of freaks me out. It's that whole helpless and not in control thing. You certainly deserve cookies and porn for going through that.

[seperis.livejournal.com]

Yes. God yes. I'm kind of surprised I didn't just get up and walk out, to be honest, but again. Intense pain and weird discomfort and I kept thinking I was overreacting. Which I really don't think I was.

[cyanne]

I'm just glad your safe, those kind of things scare the hell of me. I'm a control freak, I always have the keys to the car and I can't drink anywhere I don't think I'm safe. Probably missing some good stuff that way, but beats the alternative. Right now me and my kitties are OT3 and that's enough for the moment. Hope you feel better soon.

[seperis.livejournal.com]

Honestly, I can't figure out what I was thinking to go along. The second porn movie was mentioned, I should have made up something and gotten the hell out.

[drunkoffthestars]

Oh wow. That sound horrid. I'm so sorry that happened to you!

[offers pats and lots and lots and lots of comfort food and other comfort-type things]

[seperis.livejournal.com]

I'm clinging to my comfort coffee in a big way.

[annakas.livejournal.com]

Just reading this post creeps me out.
To be honest your sister sounds kind of naive in here (no insult intended)

And she should have told yu before this was meant as a hook up event and not just friends going on.

Erm the thought of watching porn with any of my family members is creepy as helllllllll. I have watched it with friends but family NOOOOOOOOOOO the stuff of my nightmares.

And I am sorry to hear you feel like shit *gives chocolate cookies*
erm *snicker* perhaps some Lex/Rodney torture would help. Writing angst/fucked up/angry as hell fics always brings my mood up :)

annakas

[seperis.livejournal.com]

She--I don't know what she is at this point. I knew she was fairly open sexually, but she knows I'm totally *not* on any level. So why she thought this was a good idea is beyond me--though it does explain why she didn't *tell me* what was going to happen.

Angsty fic. God, that sounds marvelous. I just might vent out some.

[suzvoy.livejournal.com]

Yiiiiiiikes.

*sympathy*

[ltlj.livejournal.com]

Sorry you had such a crappy night! I'm not a big solicializing-with-strangers-who-are-not-fangirls/fanboys person either, and the whole thing sounds nightmarish. Especially the porn movie and your sister's creepy boyfriend. And it makes me think about the guy who writes the books about stalking situations, who hammers on the fact that you have instincts and fears for good evolutionary reasons, and if somebody makes you nervous or uncomfortable you should fake a seizure or climb out the bathroom window or something. So I don't think you were overreacting, either. Just, gah, glad you got home okay.

[djinanna.livejournal.com]

Gavin De Becker? (author of The Gift of Fear and others)

[demilo19.livejournal.com]

Now I admit that i've only been reading your journal for about 6 months or so (but have been in love with your fic for years - and what a joy to find you after Smallville, if I may) but your sister DOES know you right?

you've met?

I mean, you weren't separated at birth by a freak accident and have only recently met even though you've lived in the same area for years? Or something equally Oprah-esque? Right? Because WTF? Why would she think that this would be acceptable?

Of couse I say that and I remember quite clearly having a friend who did something similar to me. Save we all ended up in a nasty motel room and she ended up having sex in the bed next to me...She never understood why I didn't want to hang out with her after that either. Well glad to hear you were assaulted, other than the water. Take it easy and treat yourself.

[researchgrrrl.livejournal.com]

You've just described what will most likely be one of the endless days I'll have to endure for my sins when I finally wind up in Hell.

I'm glad you're home safe and with good coffee. If your sister should wind up thumped upside the head at some point for Most Brazen Lack of Self-Preservation EVER, we'll all totally be your alibi and insist there's no way you could have administered the thumping, what with the pain and the chocolate and the never-leaving-your-house-again.

[springwoof.livejournal.com]

seriously, OMG, I was so, so worried for you while reading this. I was wincing and hoping it didn't all end in tradgedy, 'cause you started by talking about how much pain you were in.

So, if a relative stranger can be this concerned--and, in reality, i just read your LJ, I am not related to you by blood...WTF was your sister thinking?? She obviously didn't have any regard for your welfare whatsofuckingever. Are you sure you are related? Is there any way to change this if you actually are? sorry. pissed off on your behalf. I will get off your sister's case now. But seriously, this is NOT how family is supposed to watch out for each other. Sheesh!

So. Yay, you! for keeping the potential dangers in mind, and getting out of the situation as soon as you could. and for calling your friends to help you out and develop strategies for dealing with this in the future. You need to take better care of *you*--there's a kid and bunnies and other assorted lifeforms that kindof depend on you to be around, y'know....

::Pets you and offers virtual tube of BenGay and virtual bottle of painkillers::

[amireal.livejournal.com]

Holy crap. I take whatever I said last night back.

Also, seriously, set your sister up on a date with a gamer that doesnt' wash and then her he's a porn star.

And look into restraining orders. That's just-- I wish I lived close enough to ride to the rescue.

[wrenlet.livejournal.com]

... oh my god. By the end of the page I feel AWFUL for having laughed at your list of pain, because WHAT. the FUCK. was your sister thinking?

I... have a long history of winding up in situations that could have (or maybe should have) turned out very badly, in that "Holy shit, I could've woken up in a dumpster" way, and somehow getting out in one piece.

My worst night, though, was not date-related. It was moving-related. Really, there is nothing quite like getting the call at 3am informing you that the jerk who inexplicably insisted on driving the U-Haul got pulled over and arrested for outstanding traffic tickets, and that the truck WITH YOUR FURNITURE IN IT has been impounded.

We bailed out the truck. We did not bail out Barrett. And I don't feel a lick of shame for that.

[piplover.livejournal.com]

Egads! No offense, but your sister needs to have someone sit her down and explain the facts of life to her. I saw so many girls like that in the Army, and it always bothered me. Apparently, 60 percent of the women in the Army have been raped at some time.
They even lectured us on what to do if you are in a situation you don't feel comfortable with. I think the last resort was to pee on yourself or vomit on the guy.
I'm glad you worked out strategies for next time, if it should ever arise. Some people think it may be paranoid, but I think it's just a matter of self preservation and common sense. Women are usually seen as prey. That doesn't mean we have to roll over and show our throats.
Hope you feel better soon.

[wolfshark]

I'm glad you're safe

*hugs*

[that_mireille]

I'm glad you're safe, and I think your sister is completely insane.

[kalikahuntress.livejournal.com]

I have no words hun, that is just awful and yeah, I've been there. I'm jujst glad that you got home safely and your okay::hugs::

[boniblithe.livejournal.com]

Aside from that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you like the play?

*hugs* (gently)

[kernezelda]

Your sister sounds extremely oblivious to your character. When you first mentioned that she'd set this up, it sounded like a potential hook-up to me, and the choice to watch porn upon first meeting does not help.

If you were uncomfortable, you could have said so to no one's detriment. It doesn't matter why, you don't have to provide excuses to anyone. I'm glad this didn't turn out worse.

*thwaps your sister and sends you double-chocolate chip cookies*

[eternallycait.livejournal.com]

I remember I used to be in a sorority and we used to go to frat houses and the whole time I'd be freaking out silently because we put ourselves in bad situations. And it's so awkward because you can't really admit to it without being quite offensive, but that fear is always there sort of underlying every interaction. Margaret Atwood once brilliantly talked about what it is like to be a woman, and how men will never unerstand the fear of rape because it's a power most of them don'teven know they hold.
I'm sorry you had a bad time. I hope you feel better. I always feel kind of yucky after a situation like that. Mental grime.

[rike-tikki-tavi.livejournal.com]

Honestly, your sister deserves to get kicked in the shins for that. Hard!

Glad you got out of there safely.

[anitac588.livejournal.com]

This is what I get for going out for one of those "normal life" things that everyone's always making noise about. Screw that. Me and laptop are OTP. Normally I'd be amused by this and your level of soreness - because sometimes it just is nice to be reminded of all the ligaments and muscles, at least I learned to appreciate it. (I sincerely hope you didn't tore anything, thou)
But the second part really isn't all that funny anymore. Especially soliciting for threesome, huh. Glad you're home and everything is OK.
Also, the boar is fine, too. Happily took her first mud bath, ate like a pig and everything.

[dine.livejournal.com]

gaaaaaah - what an awful day! if there were a contest, you'd totally win.

*thwaps sister, hard*

I'm glad you made it home safely, and hope you never ever go anywhere with your sister and her friends again. if you do, call someone to come get you the minute you start feeling weird about events - go with your instincts, and get out.

*hugs and chocolate*