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Tuesday, June 9th, 2009 02:06 pm
meta rec - on rape and men by cereta
On rape and men (Oh yes, I'm going there) by ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
cereta on rape, culture, and being That Guy.
Reading both the essay and comments is the profound type of uncomfortable that always accompanies the moments that you see yourself.
I can't tell a story that hasn't been told a hundred times, and that's a story in itself--there's something I can't describe in the sheer mundanity of reading and saying, yes, yes, yes, that's me, that was me, that could have been me, that was my friend, my sister, my mother. It shouldn't be this common to be reminded how much I'm defined by what I carry between my legs.
There should be a difference between being an object and a woman; they aren't synonymous. Most days, I try to forget it's common to confuse the two. Usually, I can't.
cereta on rape, culture, and being That Guy.Reading both the essay and comments is the profound type of uncomfortable that always accompanies the moments that you see yourself.
I can't tell a story that hasn't been told a hundred times, and that's a story in itself--there's something I can't describe in the sheer mundanity of reading and saying, yes, yes, yes, that's me, that was me, that could have been me, that was my friend, my sister, my mother. It shouldn't be this common to be reminded how much I'm defined by what I carry between my legs.
There should be a difference between being an object and a woman; they aren't synonymous. Most days, I try to forget it's common to confuse the two. Usually, I can't.
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From:And had a fight with a male friend over it, but that was probably easily foreseen - friend in question is much a second wave feminist while I'm a third and we've fought about that before, and he was basically saying he thinks that complimenting guys on not being dicks is dumb and doesn't see any other interpretation of that post.
But at least it wasn't that other fight one could have with a guy prompted by that post.
Thank you for the link. I feel like I should do a new post about my own thoughts / experiences / feelings on the topic, but... you know, after the last one's depth of scarring, maybe not so much. I don't know.
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