All I'm saying is that the argument Jenn puts forth- which seems to me to be "it's anti-feminist to ever tell girls that their choices might be flawed"- is illogical and ill conceived.

That's because it wouldn't be the argument, which would explain why you find it illogical and ill-conceived.

It's just as important, if not more important, to talk to girls about where their desires might come from. Not only because they might translate into reality, but because we are so damn soaked in these kinds of misogynistic messages, we don't even think about them AS flawed anymore.

I like this. We do this a lot. Back in the day, there were special hospitals where young girls' 'desires' were examined carefully for social correct before genital mutilation and an all-dairy and oatmeal diet. I am totally supportive of stripping away all fantasies and acts of imagination that do not conform to the current social standard on what is healthy. We're still muttering about girls' kinks being not okay, though thankfully we're leaving their clit intact. How far we've come.

I think that modeling the correct behavior and instilling values that recognize the difference between fantasy and reality are where the work needs to be done, not chasing after a pop psychology myth that young girls are weak, their desires are weak, and their bodies are subject to that weakness and they must depend on others to tell them what's right. Making them ashamed of what they feel, what turns them on, explaining they *should* find x and not y hot is why we can see a guy masturbate in American Pie but not a girl get off with her dildo. I have a huge problem with substituting a restricted reading list to curb the mind instead of making sure that before they read, they already know what is and what is not healthy in real life. Co-opting their sexuality for an agenda is wrong.