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Sholio ([personal profile] sholio) wrote in [personal profile] seperis 2008-11-28 09:24 pm (UTC)

I hope you don't mind me jumping in here; I'm just reading through the comments and found this interesting.

I can't speak for [livejournal.com profile] seperis, but I think one of the points here is that a lot of young women would choose that sort of entertainment no matter what else was available, because it speaks to a kink they have. Using "kink" for young teens makes me a little squirmy, but, hell, *I* had kinks when I was that age, and I sought out books that contained them, even when I had to hunt them down and shove aside a whole sea of other books to do so. I felt weird about it and I sure couldn't explain to the adults what I was doing, but now that I am an adult, I'm still doing it (and a lot of the same kinks too).

And I feel very proprietary about my kinks. They're *mine*. It's true that maybe if I'd had a better, less screwed-up childhood, I wouldn't like reading stories about people having certain kinds of awful things done to them. And maybe I enjoy some of the things I like to read are because my society has indoctrinated me in various ways. But ... it's still mine, it makes me happy, and at this age or age twelve, I wouldn't want to be told that all I need to do is read the right sort of entertainment and then I won't want my kinky things. But I do want them; I don't want to stop wanting them. This doesn't mean there shouldn't be discussion, and responsible parents *should* be talking to their kids about this stuff. But just because they want it doesn't mean there's something wrong with them for wanting it. If it speaks to something deep inside them, even if it's a kink that would be massively screwed up in real life, they're still going to look for it even if there are thousands of books out there with much healthier views of relationships.

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