This is interesting. I hate to join the queue of commentators going "but I hate Twilight for only good, wholesome reasons!" but - I rip into any and all books / tv shows / songs / media and go "Racism! Sexism! Colonialism! THE PATRIARCHY!". And then I enjoy them. That's how I was raised to treat media: problematic! yet awesome! And that's how I would like to raise my kids, should I happen to have any: huh, that book sure has some weird ideas about human interaction in it, but no author anywhere is without some crazy. Enjoy it! If anything in it really wigs you out I'll be over here, reading Buffy fanfiction.

I guess I agree with you that it's kind of dickish to go after teenage girls for being fannish about an imperfect canon, though, because none of us has a totally unimpeachable canon. I guess, too, that it requires a certain kind of trust in girls to believe that they are strong enough of mind to withstand some ideologically suspect yet totally enjoyable literature.